Sunday, July 14, 2013

Disappointment and Secrets

July 14, 2013

Hi, Miss Lady! Guess what? Today is NUDE DAY! Your very own special holiday! Grandmommy is teasing you, because you are just so cute! I hope you have a happy day, though, after your trip to San Antonio to celebrate with Aunt Jess.

Are you being a good girl for Daddy?? I'm sure he is having fun hanging out with his little girl!

Grandmommy was SO upset the other day, when my boss, Mary, told me that I could not have next Tuesday off to come and help you and Mommy get ready to move. Now I am thinking that maybe it would have been a tough time for Mommy and Daddy to have company ..... so I will come up with a plan B or C ....

The tough part is that I haven't told Mommy and Daddy yet because I didn't want to ruin Mommy's girl weekend. I will let her know later, and I have already hinted at it the other day. But it is SO hard keeping a secret .... I'm sure you will have plenty of secrets over the years, but hopefully they will all be good ones!  It is a nice thing to not want to hurt someone's feelings, but sometimes it is hard. Everyone has times when they have to think of the other person first, and sometimes that is the hardest thing to do. But it feels good and happy to think that the other person can be glad that they didn't have to deal with the sad thing for awhile. Especially while they are trying to have a little fun.

Saturday, June 8, 2013

A Two Month Old??/ Wishes for Abby

June 8, 2013

WOW!! Your 2 month birthday has flown by, your first trip to stay at Grandmommie's house, and multiple parties .... my, oh my! Guess I ought to throw in the stop on the way home by the police officer who was SO enthralled by you that he didn't even give Mommy a ticket ....

Last weekend was the best weekend ever .... you and Mommy came for a bridal shower for Aunt Jessica, then a baby shower for Aunt Rachel and a family get together, so that everyone could meet you, and wish Cousin Kelly and Jennifer a happy engagement! Wish Daddy had been able to come, too, but sometimes work takes priority. Where to begin??

It was all so fun, and you had so many cute outfits! Have to admit that I am amazed by your happy demeanor, and your smile! Honestly, Grandmommie was a little worried that you wouldn't sleep so well, and that all of us would be feeling a little cranky by the end of the weekend. But you did great, and Grandmommie barely heard you cooing in the night when you got hungry. Have to give Mommy a lot of credit for that, and attachment parenting ....

Friday, we just hung around, and eventually went outside to roam around the yard, looking at the flowers. It's easy to give you credit for enjoying it, since you can't talk, and you were so curious .... wonder whether or not you will enjoy gardening when you get older. Guess we will have to wait and see. Good thing the workers were finished with the siding before you got here, because they were really noisy!

Saturday was your party with Aunt Jessica. I stayed home and did some errands, so that we could just hang out after dinner. You fell asleep right in my arms, and then I was reluctant to get up and go to bed, even though my behind was getting tired of sitting. Fortunately, you did fine with moving to your bed. Mommy and I just talked and talked while you slept .... looking forward to the times when we all three will talk late into the night about girl stuff!

It rained like crazy on Sunday morning, which was a blessing and a curse. A blessing because the grass and the flowers really needed it!  Mommy had spent a lot of time and energy on making Aunt Rachel's shower a success, and it was! She wasn't very happy about running in and out of the rain to get everything, including us, into the car! But it all worked out, and everyone had a good time. Next, we were off to Aunt Barby's house. On the way, we stopped to feed you, and then you slept the rest of the way. Good thing, too! Meeting all the crazy peeps in Grandmommie's family has got to be hard work for a baby girl!

Everyone fell in love with you .... fun to watch Aunt Barby, Aunt Kris, Karter and Emily play with you. Claire was there only a short time, and Uncle Ben held you for a few minutes, until you woke up .... I think he likes sleeping babies best!

That evening, Mommy and I talked some about Aunt Liz and what had happened with her and Evan. It is so hard to talk about without crying. There are reasons for everything that happens to us in this life, and although we don't know what they are, we ultimately have to accept them. I told Mommy how I felt about the whole thing, and she talked about how she felt, too. I know she still loves and misses Aunt Liz ALOT. Maybe talking to Louis about what happened will make her feel a little better .... or at least, help her cope some.

Monday morning was SO tough for Grandmommie! You were your beautiful, perfect, smiling self when you woke up .... Cryer that I am, I had to excuse myself to wipe away tears, knowing that you had to go home to Daddy. I was really disgusted with myself, because I didn't even really say goodbye or I love you before I left for my meeting. Words cannot express how much I did NOT want to go! Afterwards, I talked to myself all the way home about how you and Mommy needed to go see Daddy and how much fun we had, and that I am blessed to have had the time with you both. Imagine my surprise - and JOY!- when I saw your swing sitting there, and your blanket ..... another chance to kiss you and hug Mommy and really say bye, be safe, and I love you!

Now, for the wishes part.

At Aunt Rachel's shower, Mommy handed out pages for us to fill up with wishes for Dylan Carter. (Who, by the way, Aunt Rachel has decided will marry YOU! Good news, he isn't Romani!) After I filled in wishes for Dylan, I thought that it would be fun to think of some wishes for you, Miss Abigail! So, here they are:

I hope you learn to always be your very best self, because God loves you just the way you are, and He never makes mistakes!
I hope you aren't afraid when trying something new.
I hope you love with reckless abandon, but only those that deserve that love.
I hope you laugh daily and deeply. Laughter is the BEST medicine!
I hope you ignore people who are mean to you just because they are jealous or cruel.
I hope you become the best YOU that you can be!
I hope you respect your parents, your elders, teachers, the law ....
I hope you grow in beauty and grace.
AND, I hope you never forget that Grandmommie loves you to the moon and back FOREVER!

Love Always,  Grandmommie



Sunday, May 12, 2013

First Mother's Day

May 12, 2013

It's my first Mother's Day as a Grandma, and I couldn't be happier! Mommy sent me several pictures of you in the last few days .... my favorite was you and Brooklyn on the couch, and you were smiling! Dimples everywhere ..... boy, are we in trouble!  ;-)

Daddy got up with you when you woke up early, and then you two had a little bonding/going back to sleep time. Mommy was surprised when she got up, and no one was crying! You might get a kick out of that story sometime later. Maybe whenever you become a mom yourself. It is interesting to watch your kids grow up, but really something else to see what they accomplish as they get older, wiser, and more mature. I'm pretty certain that Mommy, Daddy, and Uncle Ben are all a lot wiser than I was at their age!

Every day I think of something that I would want to tell you, and every day I don't write it down. So, for today the word is, Don't procrastinate. That's something they talked about in the Leadership conference. Another thing they talked about was a hotel chain that had excellent customer service, particularly among the bellhops, maids and porters. When asked about it, they invited the man to their training class. In that class, they made it a point that these (less-skilled) workers were really "ladies and gentlemen serving ladies and gentlemen". That is so profound. Never see yourself as less-than. We are on this earth to serve others, not to be better-than.

Enjoy your first Mother's Day, going to LePeep for breakfast, and whatever other fun things you all decide to do. Smile! And know that you are dearly loved.

Sunday, May 5, 2013

May 5, 2013

Hard to believe that you arrived one month ago today! When I woke up today, I couldn't quit thinking about my friend Lucinda and her son Zachary. For the life of me, I cannot remember what month his birthday is, but know it is the 5th of the month. Guess an email is in order to check on that fact.

Mommy has been sending the cutest photos of you .... with Ugly Charlie and Wage, and also in the bathtub (there is a little tummy there!) Looks like you weren't too sure about Ugly Charlie .... wonder what thoughts go through a baby's mind?? Mommy says that she got Wage because you will be a hard worker and friendly. SO many blessings are being spoken over you ....

Grandma has been really enjoying work lately .... especially the part of delivering babies and meeting people who are about to give birth. The computer stuff and meetings, etc. are a pain, but it is FUN to be able to help someone have their baby. Twice last week, I had patients that had to have c/sections, and it was pretty amazing to see how differently they reacted. The first lady had been in the hospital for induction of labor for a large baby for 2 days! Finally, the doctor decided that it wasn't going to happen, so he told her that she would be having a c/section later in the day. She cried so hard! Even her mother asked if this was the way most people reacted to being told they needed a c/section. I explained to her that there were hormones + disappointment, etc. But what I really thought was "control freak"!  The second lady had her baby's heart tones go down, then up, then down again, and the doctor wasn't sure what the problem was. So we went to do a c/section while her mother called her husband back from lunch. He made it to the OR just in time, and the patient never cried or questioned anything. Unfortunately, something was wrong with the baby after he was born, and he ended up having to go to another hospital that could take care of his heart defect. All this second mom wanted to know was that her baby would be OK. I'm praying that there is something they can do for him.

Seems to be all about attitude, doesn't it?? Your Mommy was so brave and strong when you were born, and I was so proud of her. Grandma "wimped out" .... admitted this to my L&D friends, too. And Daddy .... what can I say?? He was right there with Mommy the whole time, helping her in any way he could, and even doing whatever she said, even if it didn't make much sense to him at the time. The memories of that day, and you, Abigail, are PRICELESS!

And, guess what? To celebrate your one month birthday, there is a HOLIDAY!!  Feliz Cinco de Mayo, mija!

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Bluebirds

Happy May Day, Abby!   May 1, 2013

Hard to believe that by the end of the week, you will be a month old!! That comes around on Sunday, just so you know!

Bluebirds have been "following me around" ever since you arrived. Sounds odd, right?? The thing is, Granny Almilee really liked bluebirds. And I sometimes had trouble understanding why she was SO excited about Mommy being born. After all, she already had three other grand-daughters! But she didn't have Allison yet!! It is almost as if Granny is telling me "I told you so". Or maybe it is just because it is springtime ....

Sunday, April 28, 2013

A Sunday Story - Abigail

April 28, 2013

More research on your name, Abigail. The sermon was about how Abigail was a beautiful, wise and intelligent lady, who happened to be married to a rich, foolish man.

Isn't it cool that your name is associated with a beautiful, wise and intelligent lady?? Of course, we all think you are beautiful. And we hope you grow to be wise and intelligent. But the story goes way further than that. PLEASE listen to your Mommy and Daddy, and don't marry a rich fool. Rich, OK. Fool, not so good. Especially if he ended up being arrogant and selfish, too. But that is for another day ....

Abigail had found out that David's "army" was coming to kill not only her husband, but also all the men who worked for him. David was angry because Nabal (the rich fool) had insulted him, and refused to help him, despite the fact that David and his men had helped Nabal. Also, David had been anointed as king, which was a big deal in those times. How could Nabal not know who he was??

When Abigail heard what had happened, and what was about to happen, she decided to go meet David and his men. She understood that David's"army" would kill all the men, even the ones who had nothing to do with the bad attitude and selfishness that Nabal showed. So she took a bunch of food and provisions, and met David and his men before he got to where the husband was.

Then she asked David to blame her for her husband's rudeness! I sure couldn't have done that! Most likely, I'd have been saying "Here, take all this stuff, then go ahead and do whatever you want!" But Abigail knew that if David did kill all these innocent men, it would be hanging over his head all during his time as king, and that would be bad for him. Also, she realized that saving the innocent men was a good thing, too. Abigail was a woman of good understanding. And good character.

What could be better than growing up to be a wise, intelligent, beautiful woman of good character and understanding?? Today, Miss Lady, these are my wishes for you --

Sunday, April 14, 2013

Sunday morning - Things I have learned

April 14, 2013

Hello, my beautiful little grandgirl! Hope you had a better night than you did on Friday! 

I'm sure you were excited to meet Uncle Ben .... kinda cool, isn't he? You know, he knows lots of stuff to teach you,but I think you have to be able to walk and talk, first. And I'm pretty sure they don't make carseats for motorcycles.

Today is a day when I wish I never had to go back to work and could just come hang out with you, Mommy and Daddy forever. Actually, that would probably get old pretty quickly, but one day you will know what I mean.

Years ago, when your Mommy was a baby, Great Grannie Almilee Brooks used to call and ask about her. One day, she told me that her arms ached to hold Allison. At the time, I thought she was being a little over dramatic. But now I know what she meant.  Once, she even asked me to put Allison on the phone! I'm thinking .... you are whacked, Lady! She is only 6 months old, cannot talk, and does not have phone privileges! But I learned something from Great Grannie. And that is, always say what you are thinking (as long as it is kind) even if it makes you sound silly. You never know when the person you are speaking to will need to hear it!

Now my mother, your Great Grandmother Sandy, always kept her silence, unless, of course, someone asked for her opinion. What I learned from her is that you may always have an opinion, but everyone else doesn't necessarily want to know what it is! One of thes days, maybe I will get hat straight, and learn to keep my opinions to myself !

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Abigail Elizabeth

April 10, 2013

A lovely name .... wondering what it means. Researching online to find out for you, so here goes!

Abigail is a name of Hebrew origin, which means "gives joy; my father rejoices". That fits pretty well, don't you think?? Everyone is joyful that you are here, especially Daddy! In the Bible, Abigail was the third wife of King David. (They were allowed to have more than one back then!) She was described as being good in discretion and beautiful in form. You sure are beautiful in form .... guess we will wait and see about the discretion part ... Discretion is the quality of behaving or speaking in such a way as to avoid causing offense or revealing private information.

Elizabeth is a name of English and Hebrew origins, which means "My God is bountiful:God of plenty". How lovely is that?? Always remember that God is bountiful. In the Bible, Elizabeth was the mother of John the Baptist, who was the cousin of Jesus. And in England, there have been two Queen Elizabeth's - that's why Elizabeth is one of the most popular baby girl names in England. Mommy will tell you lots more about Aunt Elizabeth - who you are named after - when the time is right.

For now, let's just say that you have a really neat name to live up to, and Grandma thinks you have a head start!



Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Cinco de Mayo

April 5, 2013

WOW!! What a day! A day that changed our family, and the world!

Woke up wondering what kind of fun your Mom and I would have today. We have already gotten all of your clothes washed, the nursery stocked up and all the other "chores" we could think of done. We had been to the midwife yesterday, and she thought you'd be born within the next 24 to 48 hours .... gotta trust a nurse's instinct! ;-)

Your Mom was looking a little uncomfortable, but trying to have a little toast with peanut butter for breakfast. She told me that she hadn't slept much last night, and was having some contractions this morning. Dad had gone to the office to do a few things, but got back around 9:00 am. That's when things got a little more serious, and Mom went to lay down for awhile.

Grandma was trying to stay out of it, and let Mom and Dad handle things on their own, together, because that is the best way to handle baby having (at least that is what I think). It was really tough to sit quietly and read while I really wanted to jump up and DO something! After a couple of hours, Mom came in and showed me on her phone that the contractions had been about 4 minutes apart for an hour, and asked if I thought we should head to the birthing center. One look at her face (she looked really intense and serious) and I knew the answer was Yes!

Mom didn't really appreciate the drive over to the birthing center, and told the midwife, Kathleen, that we were coming on ahead, even if we had to sit and wait for her there. Something about the speed and bumpy roads didn't seem like much fun for her.Dad handled that all really well, slowing down when she asked him to, and holding her hand. I just sat in the back praying that we'd get there soon, and that there wouldn't be much traffic, and that I wouldn't have to deliver you on the side of the road!!

Well, suffice it to say that we were all really glad to be at Bella Births. Kathleen arrived shortly after we did, and I could see that she knew that your Mom was in some serious labor!

Maybe Mom or Dad would like to give you the details some other time, but for now, you should know that it was a fast labor, and we were all really glad about that! We didn't know whether you were a girl or boy until you arrived. At 3:56 pm, there you were, a perfect, beautiful little Abigail Elizabeth!! Everyone was so happy to see you!!

After Mom and Dad held you, Grandma Terri and Grandpa Mike came to visit. Then Uncle James and Melissa. We all had a little sip of champagne to welcome you to the world. A few hours later, after you and Mom had a bath and a "thumbs up" from the midwife, we went home. Grandma Connie and Grandpa James were there to visit within the first hour of your arrival home. And was Mom ever excited about having sushi for dinner!!

The historical highlight for today was a quote from Anne Sullivan, who was Helen Keller's teacher. It was in reference to successfully teaching Helen the word "water" in sign language on April 5, 1887. "My heart is singing for joy this morning! The light of understanding has shone upon my little pupil's mind, and behold, all things are changed!"

April 6, 2013

Mom and Dad were up half the night with you, but they both were still really excited to have you home. Grandma only heard you cry once during the night, and I think that was early on.

I had agreed with Mom that after you were born, I would let Mom and Dad have some time with you alone. So I headed out on that Saturday morning, and got a room down the street. That way, I was close by, in case they needed me, but not right there, "in the way".Felt like crying, but held it together ( ??) I decided to go shopping, to see if I could find any really cute baby girl clothes. Malls are not my thing, and shopping isn't my favorite, either. Sometimes I feel like the worst Grandma ever, but then again, it is the love, not the things .... right? That was one LONG day .... amazing how much you can miss a person who has only been here less than a day! Lots of other people came to meet you, though, so I probably would have been a little grouchy, to say the least!

April 7, 2013

Another long day .... shopping and not really seeing anything that interesting. Went to the house about 5:30 pm to visit. Finally got a long cuddle with you. Mom and Dad had spent all day with people coming to see you and welcome you. It was fun talking to Mom and Dad about the birth, and get their "take" on it. I left a little after dinner, just as Mom was getting ready to feed you. Such a good eater you are! Mom and Dad are really good parents -- yeah for you!

April 8, 2013

Back to see Kathleen for a weight check. Everything was fine, except that your weight had dropped a little more than Kathleen liked. So Mom got some new instructions, and the news that her milk is in! After "smorgasbord" for dinner (Great-Grandmother Sandy's name for cleaning out the refrigerator), Grandma Terri and Grandpa Mike came over to visit. You sure like to eat, but HATE burps and farts! And there is incredible power in your lungs, too! Grandpa Mike and I agreed that Mom and Dad are getting a payback, in spades! ;-)